143. A woman who is married far away

Li Mei: "Even if it is love, this kind of love is too deformed!"

Tao Tao: "Many people abuse their wives and children, and they are naturally not guilty at all. The evil of such people is really evil."

"Like Lin Ting's ex-husband, he said he knew he was wrong and knelt down to ask for forgiveness. Many people think he was doing a show. In fact, he really knew he was wrong, but when he was about to happen, he couldn't control himself. Such a person is still quite conscience."

"This kind of person is actually a victim. He has been subjected to domestic violence since he was a child. Because of his weakness and being unable to resist, those evil spirits exist in his body. When he grows up, he releases the toxins when facing the weakness. It is involuntary and uncontrollable. Therefore, he regrets and suffers."

Li Mei was surprised, "So, domestic violence can be inherited?"

"This is called infection. For example, in some families, when a husband beats his wife, his wife receives this toxin. The toxin exists in her body, and she releases this toxin on her child. When the child grows up, he will release it to his wife and children."

Li Mei held her mouth.

"Really? No wonder sometimes, when children are naughty, I will impulsively want to beat the child. So, I also have this kind of sinister aura on my body."

"You didn't understand before, and many people didn't understand it. If you think your child is disobedient, you will beat him up. There are thousands of ways to educate your child. You can't just beat him up simply and roughly. This is the most undesirable and irresponsible way. People who are prone to use violence to educate their children have this poisonous gas. When they meet someone weaker than themselves, they unconsciously release it. He doesn't know what's going on."

"If you understand these principles, actually, if you think about it carefully, you hit your child not only because the child did something wrong, but more because you get emotional vent when you hit your child. It is releasing toxins in your body."

"If you don't want your child to continue to inherit this bad habit, don't beat the child. Otherwise, in the future, when the child encounters a weak person, he will use the beating to solve the problem, and he will also beat his own child in the future. If it is passed on from generation to generation, hurting himself and his relatives, will the fate of his descendants be good?"

Li Mei was a little scared, "I dare not beat my daughter anymore. As you said, I couldn't control myself at that time, and later I regretted it."

"Many parents have injured their children or even crippled them to death. It's not because their hearts are so cruel, nor because they don't love their children, it's because they have this kind of sinisterness. They are irrational when they beat their children. They are just venting unconsciously and venting the toxins on their bodies."

Li Mei: "It's so scary. In the future, when my daughter is looking for a partner, she must find a family with no violent tendency for her parents."

Tao Tao: "Some people have a lot of viciousness, beating their wives and children, and they are also violent outsiders. For example, people who accidentally hit someone to death, are born with a bad temper, cannot control their behavior, and are prone to impulsiveness. Some people have little toxins, don't hit others or partners, but they just beat their children, and they are not serious. Of course, people who never hit anyone have no such toxins."

Tao Tao: "Some men beat their wives, and they will beat them after they hit them. It doesn't matter. Such men are selfish and bastards. Lin Ting's ex-husband regrets every time, crying and kneeling down to forgive. Many people think it is incomprehensible. Those who know these principles can understand them. Although it is wrong to hit people, such people are not hopeless. At least they have a little conscience. If he knows these principles and restrains them, he will not do anything that hurts himself or others."

Li Mei: "Didn't you say that he has this kind of yin energy in his body and needs to be released. Even if he knows, can he control himself?"

"Of course, the biggest difference between humans and animals is that humans have the ability to control themselves. If they understand these principles, when they encounter impulses, they will consciously control themselves. They really can't control themselves. They can apply pillows and cushions, which is also a way to vent."

Li Mei: "Yes, just like me, I didn't know before, I would get angry with my daughter. Now I know that it's wrong. I can't pass on this bad habit, so I will consciously control my behavior."

"There is another serious consequence of beating a child, which is to hurt the child's kidneys. Traditional Chinese medicine says that it may damage the kidneys, especially children. When they are beaten, they will be frightened and will hurt the kidneys. The kidneys are congenital. If the kidneys are damaged, they will damage the fundamentals. The child will be in poor health for the rest of his life. If the kidneys are not good, it will directly affect the child's intelligence."

"So the mother is strong, the son is often cowardly, and even in poor health. If he is a daughter, he will pass on his mother's strength exactly."

Li Mei was still scared, "Beating a child will cause such great harm to the child."

"Yes, so in the future, we educate our children to control their emotions, not to beat or scold them, we should influence them with love and lead them with wisdom."

Li Mei: "Can't you scold the child if he is wrong?"

"Of course, swearing is also a kind of emotional catharsis for you, and it is another kind of violent injury, and it will not help you solve the problem."

"Many children were innocent, cute and smart when they were young. As they grew up, their parents' expectations for him became higher and higher, and their frequency of scolding him became higher and higher. The more they scolded him, the more they became stupid, because you hurt your child's spirituality."

Li Mei: "Will scolding a child hurt the child's spirituality?"

"Yes, someone once did an experiment and scolded a pot of plants to death in thirty days. So bad language is also a violent injury with extremely strong lethality, which will destroy the child's spirituality. When a child was smart and clever when he was young, he became stupid when he grew up. It was because parents destroyed the child's violent use of language."

Li Mei: "The child made a mistake and could not beat or scold him. How did he know that he had done something wrong? How could he guide him?"

"You can use a punishment system, such as prescribed things that cannot be done. If you make mistakes twice or three times, you will be punished for not doing what you like, such as not being able to eat your favorite snacks, or you can also be punished for doing housework. Isn't such punishment better than beating and scolding? So, educating children depends on the guidance of wisdom, not on beating and scolding."

Li Mei: "Taozi, you are truly an educational expert."

"The experts dare not behave because they are just because they are responsible for their children's future, so they studied child psychology and understood some truths."

"So, Lin Ting's ex-husband is not an unforgivable person? If you make it clear to him, he may not be unable to forgive Lin Ting."
Chapter completed!