142. A woman who is married far away

"Taozi, you have never been abused by domestic violence, so you can't understand that a woman has had such an experience, and that experience will be entangled like a nightmare. Although the body has escaped the trampled experience, the shadow in her heart has always been there, like a shadow."

"Li Mei, people should look forward and don't always be immersed in the past. Everything is getting better now. But you have been paying attention to a group like being abused. You listen to other people's experiences in this group and empathize with them. In this way, you think you are helping others and saving others. In fact, you drag yourself to the past forever, and fall into the pain of the past over and over again, and you will never get out."

Li Mei fell silent.

"Taozi, you said it was right. It seems like this. Every time I listen to others sharing her painful experiences in the group, it will evoke my painful memories. I am indeed falling into the pain of the past over and over again."

"So, I asked you to withdraw from that group quickly. You finally got out of that marriage and that shadow. You are still letting yourself recall these pains every day, why bother! Isn't this asking for trouble?"

"Taozi, you can see through it thoroughly, you are the most sober. However, I really want to help those people. They are really too hard. My original experience seems to be very hard in my opinion, but after hearing the experiences of those people, many people are even more miserable than I did at the time. I know the pain of being isolated and helpless, so I want to help."

"Who doesn't suffer in this world? It's just that their own suffering is different. The team that teams that beat domestic violence against men can't solve any problem."

"I once heard of a team that beats the mistress. They led a team of successful strong women who once had a wealth of tens of millions. After her husband cheated, she led a group of people to fight the mistress and stopped doing business. Every time she beat the mistress, she was very excited. She fought like this for four or five years. Once when she went to fight the mistress, she didn't expect that the one who beat the mistress was her own daughter. Because she had been keen on fighting the mistress for a long time, she devoted all her energy to this matter. She neglected to discipline her daughter, and her daughter had gone astray. She didn't know that she had gone astray. In the end, she hugged her daughter and cried bitterly. From then on, she disbanded the team of fighting the mistress. She stayed at home every day, but she missed the most important growth process for her daughter. How to make up for these?"

"Li Mei, I don't want you to become like that former strong woman. In order to vent your emotions, you will use that method as the whole of your life. The one who can truly defeat the scumbag is to be yourself and make yourself live a wonderful life."

"Okay, Taozi, I understand. I know what to do in the future. I will quit the group immediately, but I still have one question to ask you."

"you say."

There is an older sister named Lin Ting in the group. She was raped by her husband for six years. She has been divorced for more than a year and her daughter is raised by her, but she left the child to her parents and ran to another place alone.

She didn't dare to come back because her ex-husband threatened to kill her.

Before the divorce, every time her ex-husband hit her, he would kneel down and admit his mistake and beg her for forgiveness, saying that he would never hit her again.

She forgave him again and again, and was beaten again and again, and could not divorce even because her husband did not agree to the divorce.

Later, she met a man and cheated. In fact, she cheated heavily in order to revenge her husband.

Her husband knew she had cheated and was unwilling to divorce.

In order to get a divorce, she lied to her husband and said that she had cheated on one of his best friends.

His husband's self-esteem was hit and he agreed to divorce.

After the divorce, she remembered the experience of being beaten by her husband over the past six years and felt very frustrated. In order to retaliate against her ex-husband, she called her ex-husband and said that before her divorce, she had slept all the friends around him in order to retaliate against him.

Her ex-husband was furious and felt extremely insulted. He bought a knife and put it in his arms, looking for Lin Ting all over the world, threatening to kill her.

Lin Ting was so scared that she left her daughter and ran to another place. She lived a trembling life, fearing that one day her ex-husband would find her and kill her.

She missed her daughter very much now. She threw her daughter to her parents and fled alone. She did not dare to come back to see her daughter or her parents.

Taozi, what should I do with Lin Ting? Can you hide outside for the rest of your life and not come back?

Taozi, you are wise, can you help her?

Tao Tao thought for a while, "Okay! Tell me Lin Ting's contact information."

Li Mei was very curious when she saw Tao Tao want to help.

"Taozi, are you sure to help Lin Ting? Should you help her scare her ex-husband?"

"For such a man who has a strong self-esteem and is quite face-loving, it is useless to scare him. Enemies should be resolved rather than to make them, not to mention that there is actually no deep hatred between them."

Li Mei was surprised, "He even made harsh words and said he wanted to kill Lin Ting, but there was no deep hatred yet? How do you resolve this hatred?"

"The person who tied the bell must be unlocked. Since Lin Ting has no friends who cheated on her ex-husband, she just needs to call her ex-husband to explain clearly!"

Li Mei felt very surprised, "It's that simple, will he believe it?"

"Why didn't he believe it? He didn't want it to be true in his heart! In this way, her ex-husband's knot opened up, she let go of her hatred and let him go."

"For more than a year, Lin Ting has been hiding in other places. Her life is not easy, and her ex-husband's life is even worse. He may have lived a life worse than death every day! All his friends have been slept by his wife. This kind of shame is even more uncomfortable than killing him. If one day his ex-wife told him that all this is not true, just like a person who has been handcuffed by heavy shackles for more than a year, suddenly being lifted from the heavy shackles on his body, how relaxed do you think he would be?"

Li Mei: "You make sense. If he really believes, he will let go of his hatred and let Lin Ting go. However, some people are particularly paranoid. He will doubt that Lin Ting lies in order to retaliate against him before, but now he suddenly says it is not true. Are you sure he will believe it?"

"I'm 80% sure, he will choose to believe it."

"Why?"

"Because Lin Ting's ex-husband has always loved Lin Ting."

Li Mei was shocked when she heard Tao Tao's words.

"This man loves Lin Ting? Are you right? Will he love Lin Ting and abuse her again and again? If he loves Lin Ting, will he look for her all over the world and kill her?"

"These are all superficial things, I can be sure that this man loves Lin Ting."
Chapter completed!