Are men all pornographic? Maybe it's just because men are visual animals...

Indeed, men are easily provoked by the striking and striptease and feel sexual excitement. However, this does not mean that men are lustful than women. To be correct, women are more sensitive to touch, while men have one more one, that is, they are also very sensitive to vision. In other words, women are more "immediately sexual" and men are more "conceptual".

At least regarding pornography, men are more imaginative than women. Once they see a woman wearing thin clothes, men will quickly imagine the naked body inside her clothes.

The strength of lust is determined by a person's inherent erotic nature and the functional relationship that is close to the object.

To be more clear, the more a woman covers her body, the more a man wants to see it. Therefore, compared to a woman who whistles while taking off her clothes, a woman who wants to take off but still covers her can be more excited by the man's official position. Young women should not ignore this. In order to firmly grasp the man's heart, it is necessary to maintain some mystery.

The best evidence is that when testing men with naked women photos, men generally prefer nude women from Europe and America. One of the reasons may be that the physiques of European and American women are more attractive. But the biggest reason is that if they are also women in their own country, the sense of reality is too strong, and there is very little mystery. At the same time, men like nudes that are looming, and they are not very interested in nudes under the light. What men are most excited about is that they hide the last line of composition. Because this kind of ** can stimulate men to think of the next step. That is to say, men will imagine that they use their hands to remove the mask and feel a stimulating climax.

Dear ladies, if you see men sticking photos of naked women where they are staying, it is not advisable to immediately assess their bad character. Sometimes, their appreciation attitude is unexpectedly "healthy"! But then again, if you deliberately stay under the stairs and wait to peek at the scenery inside the mini skirt, you will be disagreeable! Such pornographic scoundrels are better off "freezing" their minds, even if they are scolded by women, they are not worthy of sympathy.

"Men! Those pair of thief eyes that like to peep are really disgusting! Most women say so. In fact, it is not only men who have this kind of bad nature. Do you dare to assert that women do not have this kind of mentality? An old lady moved to an apartment. But after only three or four days of living, she angrily called the administrator. "I don't want this house, because it's really disgusting to see a man's bathhouse from here. Give me another room!" The administrator felt strange, so he went into the old lady's room and took a look. "No! Where can I see it?" The old lady replied angrily: "You! Don't argue with me, okay? You stand on the table and take a look! Don't you see clearly?"

Ignite his hope

Some people say that women are made of water, but in fact women are also like flowers, needing irrigation, warmth and sunshine. The source of happiness for men is like a car. You can make him desire your love like driving a car because you are the goddess in his heart. In each relationship, he often desires to get your love, even if you are an old couple who have been married for decades. You should always let him know that you have other suitors. Although you don’t have to and should not really date these suitors, you must also let him know that if you like, you can take "actions", but you still choose to be with him. You can use the assumption of competing with these men to satisfy his love pursuit psychology.

Appropriate teasing

Men like to be teased. To stimulate them, they must first procrastinate, and even stop him from making further requests at appropriate times, so that his desire and stimulation will expand. If he is deeply attracted by you, his desire for sex is urgent. In this way, you may be dominated by his desire, but if you want to maintain a sense of stimulation to him, you should control the speed of the vehicle driving - that is, slow it down to the speed you need.

Can please him without taking off his clothes

How to delay having sex with him and maintain his stimulation and desire? Even though it is impossible to say "no", it can be used to face the temptation of drugs, but it is really difficult to talk about when facing a partner he likes. When a man's sexual request is rejected, he will think that his wife must not like him or dislikes sex. This blow to him is unbearable.

So you should let him know that you like him and that you have been deeply attracted to him (if that is true). Try to look at him affectionately and say to him "hazard will not be achieved."

In your daily life of marriage, try to discover some interesting and beneficial activities. Many times, a couple meets each other quickly just because they do nothing at home. You can also try wearing clothes that are difficult to take off.

Let the fire of love burn

Of course, a couple in love will have intimacy, but if everything becomes a habit, even the most sincere person will feel tired or even run away. So no matter how much he knows you, you should maintain a certain sense of mystery. Shakespeare famously says: "When she is most satisfied, she feels hungry."

Appropriate attention can reduce his confusion

Although it is a good thing to get, it makes him feel that it will make everyone suffer if he can't get it. Even a man with sincerity and patience will feel disappointed and tired, or even collapsed. Modern women hope that although they are already in marriage, they will also want him to pursue you, but if you often disappear, he will lose the goal of chasing, so that he will feel at a loss and even at a loss.

Therefore, you should try to pay more attention to him. You need to care about your children, your career, your interests and your friends, but you often ignore him - he actually needs your care more. Many times, a man has an affair does not necessarily mean that he needs a new sexual partner, but that his partner has not been able to give him enough care.

Give him some surprises

Occasionally, wear sexy underwear, flirt on the phone, play different roles, write a hot love letter, write down romantic things in the diary and let him see it "inadvertently" to arouse his imagination. You might as well try to wrap a hand-knit sweater in flower paper and add a note that says "Don't let it cool, let it warmly return home!", which will be warm to anyone's heart after reading it.

To some extent, women can take the initiative in the relationship between the two genders. It can be straightforward or meticulous, which can make them imaginative. They can also try new postures and props to create new ideas and atmospheres, but they should avoid being overjoyed. Positive development is to know when to stop.

Unruly language teasing

Try to stimulate him with your sexy voice, which will have unexpected effects. Sometimes some third-level jokes that are difficult to deal with on weekdays may stimulate our nerves. If your partner thinks this is very attractive but you think it is a lowly person, try to communicate with him well.

flirt

Unless you are a jealous or extremely conservative man, you might as well show your sexy side occasionally - sexy dress, wild dance or gentle flirting can bring satisfaction to him. However, no matter what, you must let him know that you are actually showing sexy for him. But the boundaries in everyone's heart are different, so you should understand each other's definition of stimulation and crisis.

Use your wisdom to stimulate him

Wisdom can be very sexy and attractive, and men do not dislike smart women. Your wisdom can bring a sense of humor and freshness to a love life. His spiritual satisfaction and desire for sex also require your wisdom.

Avoid fraud

If both of you believe in monogamy, don't act deviantly. If you have a crush on others, he will soon realize and lose interest in you. This betrayal is not a stimulus, but an important factor that destroys your relationship.

To get freshness in sexual relationships, the most direct way is not to change a partner. You can also spend more time and seek new ideas with your partner. If you do it with your heart, he will feel it. You can show many aspects of women, such as changing their dress and image frequently - mature, youthful, strong woman-like, and even unrestrained and unrestrained style. When you love, you can pretend that you are a different woman. If he gets so much from you, how can you "seek outside"!

He doesn't accept that women are too proactive?

Some men like women to tease them actively, but others think that men should always be in the active position. When women act too proactive and excited, they may feel humiliated. If they are like cowhide lanterns and cannot receive your signal, or if you give a hint, they may back down, then their expectations may be lower than those of other men. Don’t make a fuss about it, otherwise the situation may worsen. To enhance communication between the two parties, you might as well seek the assistance of psychological experts.

Love is not a war

To stimulate him does not mean that violence is involved. Although men often use violent means to vent and try to help him get satisfaction in a happy way. If you think that the way he treats you is almost abused, it is best to leave him!

Cumulative stimulation in years

As you age and your marriage life lasts, people's interest in sex may gradually decrease, but this is not an unchanging law. You two can bring freshness to each other at any time. A long-term relationship will inevitably experience highs and lows. If you want flowers to bloom often, you must be carefully irrigated.

Five "temptations" that men cannot escape

When you know that Prince Charles of England abandoned Princess Diana and threw herself into Camilla, I believe that not only you, but all women will feel inexplicably wonderful. What is Diana not as good as Camilla? What temptation did Charles suffer from her?

In fact, why are Charles the only ones who have different intentions? You will be curious about why men can’t stand the temptations of other women in a stable and pleasant relationship; what are these temptations?

Everyone has different stories. However, there are some more common plots among them. The following are the plots that the five men are most likely to be tempted:

She has no place to match you

Most women will think that the temptations a man encounters come from those charming and even perfect women. However, surprisingly, many men are tempted by women whose charm and attraction are inferior to their girlfriends or wives. In fact, these women are not necessarily beautiful; but they are easy to approach and obtain. Will you worship your partner as an idol? These women will - this is why men cannot resist.

She needs assistance and comfort

Classic scene: A married man seduces a single girl and says, "My wife doesn't understand me." It turns out that men are also affected by this. Facing a woman crying and asking for sympathy and understanding, the man's heart becomes soft - and some of itchy. Another similar situation is that women seek spiritual comfort from men, such as breaking up love; family, financial problems, etc. As a result, it is because of the helplessness of women that makes men think about it...

She is his old girlfriend

Old girlfriends are an indescribable temptation for many men. Surprisingly, men want to rekindle their love with their old girlfriends, often when they and their current girlfriend are about to enter another stage. Regarding this phenomenon, psychologists explain that this is not unrelated to men's fear of promises. On the other hand, old girlfriends (especially first lovers) always bring men a special feeling. Therefore, if they have a little more intimate behavior, the temptation is easier to unfold.

She is his colleague

It is undeniable that working together between men and women can spark sparks because they have different opinions. However, this professional spark can easily turn into emotional sparks!

In fact, getting along with a female colleague is never like an ordinary family life. In other words, if a relationship does not involve credit card bills and housework, it will naturally be more relaxed and happy, especially when it can bring freshness to a regular life. This is not difficult to explain why men will ripples with summer interns and female colleagues dispatched by branches to inspect business.

She is his girlfriend's roommate

When he came to his girlfriend's house, his girlfriend's roommate was often there. Over time, his understanding of her was almost as good as his girlfriend: what TV shows she likes to watch, what style of pajamas she likes to wear, and her relationship with her boyfriend... This kind of close but unattainable relationship makes men even more itchy and the temptation to cross the line becomes stronger.

Many men say that some short-term temptations only make them feel that they are still attractive. As long as they stick to it and are not shaken by temptation, their relationship with their partners will become closer, which can be said to have a positive impact.

I have been married to my husband Lin Junyi for seven years. After so many years of ups and downs, I have felt that my marriage life has become a part of my body organs, like eyes and mouth. I breathe with it, survive with it, be happy with it, and be sad with it. Since I have a home and a child, women's love has become cement with daily life, interweaving all feelings and hopes, and building the building of the family. Seven years have passed, I have been tired, monotonous, and even trance, but home is always home, the brightest and most attractive to you after get off work every day.

My husband and I, even my son who are studying in kindergarten, are like diligent birds in the same bird's nest. They go out early and then return home with the joy and hard work of the whole day. Adults need to work and children need to go to school. I have long been used to such a busy and solid life. Occasionally, I will have a kind of happiness and satisfaction when I am free. What I most romantic is to look at the stars in the sky and think that God is destined to come to this home in this life, love Lin Junyi and love my son. So, I never thought that one day, Lin Junyi told me that marriage is just a feeling, and now, what he needs most is neither love nor hatred, but a gray feeling mixed in black and white. How can this not make me stunned?

It was one night this summer. Lin Junyi called and said as usual that there was a social event and he would come back later. I was cooking at home, watching over my son's homework. The phone suddenly rang. It was one of my female classmates who asked me what I was doing at home and why I didn't go out to play. I said there was no time. Lin Junyi was outside, so I had to look at the children. The female classmates said, "What are Lin Junyi busy with recently?" I said I was not busy with anything, work, business trips, as usual. She was hesitant in her tone, and wanted to say nothing, which made me a little strange, so I asked her directly what happened? She said, "You go check your Lin Junyi's bank card, and the afternoon before yesterday, see what he bought.

"What's wrong? What's wrong?" I asked afterwards. As soon as she said this, I immediately felt bad in my mind. "I'm not trying to destroy your relationship, but I always feel that we are so familiar with you. It's really not good to not tell you. Maybe things have just begun, and it's better to prevent problems before they happen. In addition, maybe I'm too careful, that woman, maybe some of your relatives."

From her words, I could hear something rough. At this time, I calmed down and said, "You saw Lin Junyi and a woman together, right? Swipe your card? In the hotel?"

"No, no, no," the classmate said repeatedly, "It was in the mall. He bought her a necklace, which the woman chose by herself. Do Lin Junyi have any relatives, cousins ​​or nieces here? Maybe it's because I'm troublesome, so don't question me just because you have a clear idea."

The classmate put the phone on, and it sounded more nervous than me. I couldn't watch the TV anymore, so I immediately went to find the bank card, thankfully, put it in the drawer, and saw it tightly in the wallet, and I didn't seem to have used it recently. I believe that my classmate will not lie to me, and there is no need to make trouble. So what's going on? Unexpectedly, just as I was worried about it and somehow spoke to him, things quickly appeared in front of me.

First, I found a strange bank card in Lin Junyi's pocket. I secretly used it to check it. The password was different from what we often use at home. I don't know how much money it was here, nor did I know how much it cost to buy a necklace for that woman that afternoon. But over the past year, he has rarely taken money from home except for his salary.

This card made me start to alert him about his whereabouts, and soon I discovered the problem. We started to sleep in separate rooms half a year ago because he said he had to make plans at night and stayed up too late to disturb me. I had never noticed what he was doing before, but now, when I got up quietly and lie at his door, I heard him calling in a very low voice. Sometimes, there were deep sighs and uncontrollable laughter.

two

The morning I went to check the phone list was a lifelong and painful experience. Since I found out that he called at night, I have started to have insomnia habitually. On the long night, I don’t know who he was talking to, nor what they were saying. After we got married, especially over the years, except for family and children, there was basically nothing to say on weekdays. It’s not that I don’t want to say it, but that he always uses it as an excuse to be very busy. The happiest thing about every day is when the family sits together for dinner. Only then can I hear him say something, go with me, and children.

I thought that marriage was like this, or that it was a marriage he understood and needed - a wife who was tactful and slight, a family that was safe and trouble-free, and a son who didn't need much energy to do. When he began to put all his energy into work day by day, I even agreed with this family model. Over the years, I have never had any suspicion about him. I always thought that he, like me, was devoted to this family.

That morning, I was the first to go to the entrance of the telecommunications business hall, and the door had not opened. I stood on the street with my copied ID card. At this time, my heart was beating like a drum. I knew that a shocking secret would appear soon, but I didn't know what to do if the secret was exposed. People on the road were rushing to work, hurried past me. They had nothing to do with me, like rivers, but at this moment, I even wanted to stretch out my arms and grab them from afar, no matter who could do it. I longed to be like many people, at least as long as these people who couldn't see any changes on their faces, and I also wanted to step on a bicycle and just go to work like them. I suddenly realized that my life was different from before.

The telecommunications business hall opened, and several staff members watched me go in with them, which was a little strange. They were joking loudly, cleaning and tidying up the countertops. I stood in the middle of the hall in a stutter. I didn’t know why my body and mind were so cumbersome, not angry, but sad. As time went by, the pain became more and more serious. When I handed the number to the service staff, my tears suddenly fell uncontrollably.

It was a young girl. She saw everything, but she lowered her head tactfully and avoided my eyes. Maybe she already knew everything. A woman who is gradually passing by, with fatigue and vicissitudes, sadness and unbearableness, and with her forced calmness and weakness that can't be concealed, what else would happen if she checked the phone number? After getting the phone number, she actually had more than 2,000 yuan.

I don’t know when this call fee started. For more than half a year, Lin Junyi has been paying the phone fee at home. When I saw this huge number, I controlled my tears. I immediately left the business hall, but when I stood outside, I found that my hands and feet were soft.

At that moment, my soul seemed to have left my body. The feeling of powerlessness and helplessness grabbed me tightly, without hope and concern, the world is empty, the sky is white, and who am I?

I sat on the steps at the door. Holding this long piece of paper, my eyes were filled with messy numbers. There were two of them that appeared continuously, one from our city, and the other from other places. Changsha, which was mostly in the middle of the night, the longest time, and it took five hours to call. Who are they?

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With this phone list, I went to the unit. I sat down but couldn't concentrate. I really wanted to call the number on the list, but I felt that it was a big problem to just listen to the other party's voice. After a long time of twisting and turning beside the phone, I finally dialed the number. When the other end passed back and forth, I realized that I had called Lin Junyi unknowingly. He seemed to be idle, with a smile in his tone, and said leisurely: "Hey, hello."

I began to tremble, first with my hands trembling, then my whole body trembled violently. I never thought that I would face this fact so hard, and the most unbearable thing was that the dependence on him developed in many years of marriage made me unable to help but shed tears of weakness when I heard his voice even when I was betrayed. I choked up, and for a moment, there was no hatred or sadness, but I just wanted to stand in front of him immediately, forget all the worries I had these days, and hugged him tightly.

My speech touched him. He asked, "Who is it? Talking."

I had no sound and didn't know what to say. And there was a caller ID in his office, and he soon knew it was me. But after all, there was a ghost in my heart. I had no sound for so long that he was a little nervous. He began to ask me: "What's wrong, is it you? Is there anything wrong? I'm still at work, and I'll say something if I don't say it, and I'll hang up." I couldn't speak, and the microphone was wet with tears. Then, gently, he hung up first. I also put down the phone.

There was no one in the office, and I began to cry loudly when I lay on the table. Lin Junyi must have noticed something was wrong, so he quickly dialed it back. The phone kept ringing, and it kept ringing for more than a dozen times. I finally picked up the microphone and asked me, "What's wrong?" I tried to calm down and said, "It's uncomfortable." "Why are you uncomfortable?" His voice was a little nervous, but I could feel that he didn't think I was saying that I was feeling uncomfortable. I cleared my throat and said, "Can you go home early tonight? I have something to tell you." He was silent and said, "Okay. See you at night."

Lin Junyi and I were both poor students. When we got married, we didn’t even have a wedding bed. He was studying for graduate school at that time, and he was in his dormitory, and there was still a bunk bed. As soon as we entered the door, a bookshelf on our right hand was almost our most valuable property. In addition to books, there were toothpaste, soap boxes, lunch boxes, facial cleansers, and even shoe polish and shoe brushes. There was a torn table in the middle. At night, we sat by the side to read and chat, hoping that our unit would divide the life after the room. Although we were poor, we were not sad at all. We talked and talked. Day and night, we really wanted to have two mouths. Although it was a bunk bed, we always slept together. Once in the middle of the night, he squeezed me to the ground and fell my eyes blue. Later, when I fell asleep, he would climb to the bunk bed.

Sometimes on weekends, when it rains, we don’t go anywhere, do nothing, just lie on the bed, and after they finish speaking, they hold hands and lie quietly. At that time, their hearts were full of love, and they thought how could life be so happy. I just couldn’t do it, so I insisted that he thinks so too, so he teased me: “Then I said, should you provide services?” I wasn’t polite: “Yes, you’ll pay the service fee after you finish.” He immediately widened his eyes: “Then what fee do you give me?”

We were so in love at that time. We loved each other so much that we were not afraid of poverty. We thought that even if we lived in bunks for the rest of our lives, our relationship would never change. But what made us suddenly have today, and what made me pick up the phone, but couldn't say a word to him? Where did our youth and love go? Is it like life, like the years, and what has passed, and it will never come again?

Four

Lin Junyi came back at around 8 o'clock in the evening. This was something he rarely could return early when eating outside. As soon as he entered the door, he screamed, saying that his head hurts a little, and then he said he wanted to talk to his son. I knew he was hiding his anxiety, maybe it was because of his anxiety that he didn't even notice that my emotions were equally unstable.

Let my son go to bed early, and I asked Lin Junyi to come to the living room to sit with me. He had just taken a shower and wiped his hair with a towel. He was not willing to sit down, but stood up and said, "What's the matter? So serious." I first said the phone number of the city he often called. I said, "Are you familiar with this person?" His face changed, and his hands stopped. But soon, he calmed down and said, "I know, a friend. What's wrong? Why do you know each other?" I shook my shaking

Head. He guessed something, and expressed an unhappy expression in anxiety: "Then why do you ask me about this? Are you following up? Or are you still asking for a private detective? Is it fun?" I said it was fun. As I said it, he put the phone list on the table. He took it over and took a look, biting his lips. I was waiting for him to speak, even a word of sorry. But unexpectedly, after a long time passed, he finally spoke with only two words: "Bored." After that, he entered his room.

I sat in the living room, trying to hold back my tears and anger. I thought I shouldn't lose my temper. I just wanted him to explain it clearly. Although the matter was already very clear, shouldn't he give me an explanation? Thinking of this, I pushed his door. The door was not locked. He was lying on the bed, holding the list, and there was no special expression on his face. I said, "Who are they? Can you tell me? Also, why did you do this?"

Lin Junyi didn't speak at first, but he might think that this was not the solution to the problem. After a moment of silence, he stood up. When he walked to the door, he put his hand around my shoulder. "Come on," he said, "Let's have a good talk." Then, he said to me: "Many times, marriage is either love or hate. It has a middle ground that can make people buffer. I am a sentimental man who always needs fresh and happy love. But as we get married for a long time, life is getting duller. I can't find a similar feeling at home. What do you think you should do?"
To be continued...