After hearing this, Yang nodded in agreement, "I believe Mr. Cui will not do such a thing. I'm afraid that Cui Yu will unfairly favor his wife."

"Mom, don't you know. Cui Hao's father cannot be the patriarch. The big reason is that Mrs. Cui's relationship has never helped the Cui family for many years. The future patriarch of the Cui family will re-select the candidates.

Maybe it was his second grandfather's house who was the clan leader and was in charge of Qinghe and the clan members of the capital. In this side of the capital, it was possible that Cui Hao, the second uncle, was the clan elder, and the clan leader managed Qinghe in the capital. The clan elder was responsible for the affairs of the capital every day."

Yang sighed, "What do you mean is Cui Yu giving up the position of patriarch?"

They are all clans, and their centripetal force towards the family is actually greater than their loyalty to the court. Of course, no one usually treacherously.

Being able to become the head of the family is a wish and glory. Doing things for the family leads the family to a new era and glory. This is part of life’s dream, no less than a man’s glory to be a first-rate official.

Look at the second and third grandpa, who are all gray-haired and are still doing their best to reform the family. When they are still in good health, they are ready to give up their power and select young talents to take over the family. While they can work for a few years, they can assist the children so that they will not go astray.

This sense of responsibility is a sense of centripetal force and mission that modern people cannot understand.

Giving up the position of patriarch of the family is actually very difficult, which is equivalent to giving up the same mood as a first-rank official.

Girls can get married, and boys will never leave their family in their entire lives. This is different.

"Actually, I don't understand the specific ones, but Cui Hao said that I don't have to worry so much. His father can't be the patriarch. He will be the patriarch in the future. Dingduo may transition to other people in the middle, but his father cannot. This is what Grandpa Cui told him."

Zilan shrugged. He didn't know much about the Cui family, and only after getting engaged, he began to slowly learn from Cui Hao's mouth.

"It seems that the Zhang family's relatives did not bring much benefits to the Cui family. The main reason is Zhang's own problem. Maybe the Cui family doesn't like Zhang's too weak and romantic. People from the big clan have great requirements for their daughter-in-law.

Zhang only knew about the romantic relationship for so many years, and made the old lady of the Cui family tired and unable to die. The clan members saw it. Although it was not good to ask too much about other people's housework, they definitely did not agree with her.

Once Cui Yu takes over the clan leader, it means that Zhang is the clan leader’s wife, but in fact she is the clan wife. She is not qualified at all, so how can the clan members agree with it? So it is not surprising that they give up the position of clan leader.”

After hearing this, Zi Lan tilted her head and thought about how her two grandmothers were doing things in a very fair and objective manner. She would never be biased towards anyone. All kinds of troubles were handled in an orderly manner. Obviously, Cui Hao's mother did not have this ability.

"The transition between the two is also to prevent Grandpa Cui from being ahead of the past hundred years. Another thing about Cui Hao may have to accumulate political achievements, abilities, vision, and connections. In the future, it may be very necessary to take charge of the Cui family. What is the vision and ability of a family's ruler, and it also means what kind of future he can lead the family to."

"Yes, you're right. Look at our family, the Cui family is controlled by the old man, and the Qi family is also the old man who controls the general direction. He basically won't go wrong, let alone go wrong. His character and ability determine what his children and grandchildren are like.

But look at Li Qing, the Li family's ruler is a little eager for quick success and instant benefits, which has a lot to do with personality. It can be seen that it is sent to the Li family's daughter into the palace. If the emperor does not issue an order to a family like us, he will never send his daughter into the palace to fight for wealth.

Like our family, your appearance, demeanor and knowledge are also top-notch. You can also try it when you send it to the palace, but your grandfather would rather get you into the palace than let you enter the palace. Not only do you love you, but you also don’t give your son any chance or ideas to take shortcuts. The Song family has experienced ups and downs and it is not easy to get to this day.”

Zilan nodded. Both grandfathers have serious and upright personalities, and they are the kind of person who hates being cautious and taking shortcuts the most. No one in the family dares to do this. He is steadily walking through his studies and work step by step.

Everything has two sides. Being a royal relative may not be a good thing. For example, the Lin family of the Empress Dowager's mother is actually a lot of trouble. After the new emperor comes to power, his family still has to live with his tail and beware of his family.

Both mother and son are from the Lin family. How many connections do you have in the palace and how many forces are the secret lines of the Lin family? Can the new emperor rest assured?

This is also why some court officials firmly choose to be neutral. No matter who is the emperor, it is enough for us to be good at ourselves. There are so many official positions in the court, and the emperor cannot all be placed in his confidants, and he cannot be favored or valued. There is always a position for me. As long as he has the ability, the emperor is not too foolish and can always stand out.

Therefore, the clan leader of the family, his ability, vision and mind determine whether every decision he made is correct and whether he can lead the family to new glory.

Of course, it is not absolutely possible to believe that entering the palace is a bad thing, and sometimes it is forced. For example, the Lin family was decided by the late emperor to enter the palace, and they were not allowed to resist and could only send their daughter to the palace.

"It would be better if he didn't become the patriarch, otherwise I would be worried too. I would feel relieved if this happens."

Yang nodded.

"Mom, don't worry about me. I'm not that weak child either. Don't be afraid of difficulties. Just solve them. As long as Cui Hao doesn't get angry with me, I don't care about others."

"What you said is right. Cui Hao is not a person like Li Qing, otherwise it would be better if you marry him. The Xu family agreed to this marriage because they asked the Li family. This is an exchange.

The son of the Xu family has some talent, and I hope to go further. His family's foundation is too shallow. I hope the Li family can support his son. Otherwise, this family will not be his turn."

"Oh, my daughter's life is not up to me."

Zi Lan sighed when she heard this. The women of this era do not count.

"Isn't that the case? What's important about my daughter's family is to be strong, sensible and sensible. If the girl of the Xu family married and could get Li Qing to persuade him to move forward, there might be some chance. Otherwise, she would have to live her own life, or she would hope to have a son sooner, and she must be a son, otherwise she would have a hard life."

"What can I do to give birth to be like buying things? Is it your final decision? Is this a tough guy? Without a daughter, my sons all popped out of the cracks of the stone. It's really... I'm so angry after hearing this."

Zilan is a modern soul and cannot listen to words that prefer boys over girls, but this is the reality here. Even if your son is golden, there is no way to be angry.

Yang also sighed, "A woman's life is a miserable life. It doesn't matter who she says she wants to marry, and she doesn't matter what she says she wants to. Her parents love her better. It's better for her parents to love her. She is a good thing like the Xu family. Even if the couple is not loving, if they have children, they can still raise their status. After all, the status of the Li family's daughter is not on the same level as that of the Xu family."
Chapter completed!