Chapter 20 How Difficult Is Self-Affirmation
I can have any other way to deal with it. I can only serve his preferences and try to satisfy Wen’s parents.
Wen’s parents are very traditional scholars. They are not brave, and they are a bit pedantic and believe in their own way.
Scholars have had the habit of being aloof since ancient times. Wen’s parents, to be precise, this is the case for the entire Wen family. If you want to marry into the Wen family and become the daughter-in-law of the Wen family, you must be educated first, and illiterate will definitely not be able to do so.
He is naturally elegant with poetry and literature. Wen’s parents always believe that reading more can improve a person’s temperament, and women who can match their sons naturally cannot be too mediocre.
In addition, Wen’s parents will never easily accept a rural girl who has no education. There is another reason, and she has no face!
Both the couple teach in school. When they have nothing to do, they must chat in the office and chat with their own children. Other people's children work well and have the ability to have sex with their lovers. Why should their son marry a wife who is not up to par with? When they talk, they will not say anything in public and will definitely laugh at them behind their backs. They can't stand this.
In summary, if Dongyang wants Wen’s parents to accept her, he must work hard to improve himself and make himself a person who will not embarrass them if the elders of the Wen family tell him.
To be honest, Dongyang is quite disgusting.
In order to cater to others, it is really a frustrating thing to completely deny yourself.
Wu Qing has so many advantages, she is down-to-earth, hardworking, kind, brave and persevering...
But these advantages are not worth mentioning at all for Wen’s parents. They only want a woman who will not give them a shame to their sons. And their standard of not being shameful must not include the shining points of Wu Qing.
With Dongyang's ability, she could deal with Wen's parents for the time being, but she didn't want to do that from the bottom of her heart.
Zhang Kuang seemed to know what she was thinking and sighed, "Dongyang, don't use the ideas and values of decades to measure people today. You have to think about the problem from Wu Qing's perspective. Do you think, with Wu Qing's courage and persistence, will you give up with the person you like because of the difficulties in front of you? Since she doesn't give up, she will definitely try her best to make Wen's father and mother like her. In this process, you feel that she is very wronged, but she herself doesn't feel that way, because in her selfish heart, she also feels that she is not outstanding enough and cannot be worthy of Wen Xiaoshan."
Zhang Kuang said it to the point!
Judging from the true Wu Qing's ideas, she will definitely feel that she is not worthy of the cultural people from big cities. If she wants to protect her love, she will definitely be willing to change herself. Even if she can't become a person who satisfies Wen's parents, she will not hate her.
Dongyang believes that the shining points on Wu Qing are so insignificant in the eyes of the real Wu Qing. After all, she and Wen’s parents value similar things.
"Okay, I'll study hard and try to get a degree in the future. It's OK," Dongyang said disappointedly and helplessly.
"They all teach Chinese. It's okay. When you want to show off, you like to chew words and make others think that they are too much. When you meet, you must be careful and not let them think you are stupid and you can't lose their face too much," Zhang Kuang said to her in detail.
Dongyang smiled and hummed twice: "If you don't have good acting skills, you won't be able to do this role."
Her and Zhang Kuang's acting skills have been tempered for a long time. She is not afraid of her acting skills, she just feels unhappy.
She has a small emotion, and there are some people who have a small emotion like her, and that person is Zhao Xiaoqin.
Zhao Xiaoqin was urged to get married by her family.
Originally, her family was quite optimistic about Zhang Kuang, but unfortunately Dongyang took the lead. The Zhao family wanted to find a similar partner for her and quickly got married. The son-in-law could also help the family do farm work.
Zhao Xiaoqin has many children at home. She has an older sister above and is already married. She has three younger brothers below. One is in junior high school and two are in elementary school. There are many places to use money.
Carpenter Zhao relies on carpenter work for others all year round to support his family, but after all, he was a farmer for generations and could not let go of the land at home, which led to his family being busy than other families during the busy farming season.
This year, the harvest and snow were coming, and Carpenter Zhao's wife was not in good health. She finally collapsed in a hurry and busy manner. She was sometimes good and sometimes bad, and she has not yet achieved good results.
The family suddenly lost labor, and Carpenter Zhao began to worry about planting in the spring of the year, so he put his ideas on Zhao Xiaoqin, hoping that she could marry an honest and hardworking man to help with the work and reduce the burden on the family.
Many girls in the village get married because of this or more ridiculous reasons. No one thinks there is a problem with the Zhao family's arrangements. But Zhao Xiaoqin himself feels frustrated, feels chilled, and wants to resist.
Resistance takes courage. She doesn't have that courage, so she can only think about it.
Yesterday, the introduction person brought a young man to his house. He was from the neighboring village and was not very good-looking and short. The Zhao family liked his brothers and sisters who were not worried about not having any work.
Zhao Xiaoqin didn't like him and told her parents, but Carpenter and his wife didn't listen to her at all, so she asked her to contact the man more and make up the matter as soon as possible.
She felt so uncomfortable that she was scolded when she cried at home. When she came out to find a girl with good relationships, she tried to persuade her to accept her fate. She felt even more uncomfortable.
I was walking on the main road in the village and didn't know where to go, so I met Dongyang who came back from school.
There were still tears on her face, so it would be fine if she couldn't see her. She couldn't pretend not to look at her when she saw her.
Dongyang stopped her and asked her what was wrong. The girl cried and said, "Wow".
It’s so bad to cry on this street. Dongyang didn’t hesitate at all and pulled someone to his house, closed the door and let her cry.
After crying for a while, Zhao Xiaoqin stopped her tears and told Dongyang about her own affairs as if she was telling her. Finally, she said: "Actually, I don't have to marry someone who is so good. I just don't want to marry someone without even understanding someone and I'm arranged for my dad to marry casually. My elder sister was introduced to my elder brother-in-law and I didn't meet her twice before marriage. I realized that he had so many problems after marriage, but they even had children. Isn't this life going on?"
"If you don't want to marry, don't marry. Your parents will never give your legs to the man's house at a discount." Dongyang gave her an idea: "If you have someone in your heart, then go and fight for it. If you don't have anyone in your heart, look for it slowly. Can you, a girl who is over twenty, still be able to make your own decision?"
Zhao Xiaoqin lowered her head and didn't say anything for a long time.
Dongyang continued to advise: "I admire you very much. You can talk when you come and do things, and you will never offend others. Who in the village will praise you as a good girl."
"So what can I do if I know how to do it? I have to listen to my parents," Zhao Xiaoqin said dejectedly.
"How is it? You don't know how to do something is an amazing skill!" Dong Yangbei said sincerely: "I tell you that it is actually a very difficult thing for people to live in harmony with each other. If you can do this well, it is enough to show that you are better than many people. To be honest, with this, even if you leave our village, go outside, or go to big cities, you can still do well!"
Chapter completed!