Han Ting called her ex-husband and made an appointment with her to have a showdown at night - her ex-husband has returned to the department and resumed work. Although she is still in a "reserve" state, she at least has her own desk and can receive calls during working hours.

Gu Ao said diligently: "I'll drive you there later. Mina and I will find another place next to me. If there is something to take care of, we won't eavesdrop on your specific conversations if it's okay."

Gu Ao spoke very sincerely. He had absolutely no evil thoughts towards Han Ting. He simply felt that the other party was a respectable teacher and had always wanted to repay her, but she didn't accept gifts last time.

Han Ting did not refuse.

Seeing that it was a little early to make an appointment, she sat there and drank some hot water to sober up and chatted with Isminaya for a while.

"I went to Iraq this time, no one took advantage, right?" Han Ting asked with concern.

"No, Teacher Han, Senior Gu is very careful with me. Although I was shot later, I felt relieved. I lay there to recuperate, so I was not afraid of being taken aback." Isminaya's tone was a little inexplicably complicated.

Han Ting sighed sadly: "It's good if you don't. You must remember, especially girls. No matter how heavy the foreign affairs task is, you must never let yourself fall into ambiguity. In fact, when you grow up, you will understand that whether you sacrifice your personal or not has no impact on whether the task is completed.

If the other party refuses to agree to your conditions, it is all the other party’s national policies. Even if you sacrifice yourself, it is useless. Today you have also heard the story of my youth, and this is the lesson. Everything I have today is retribution and fate. So I don’t want any girl to repeat my mistakes in the two sessions I have led."

After Han Ting and Isminaya taught some experiences of people who have experienced it, Gu Ao drove her to the cafe where the best showdown was.

Gu Ao and Isminaya parked the car and found a table in the other corner of the hall, ordering some drinks and desserts to wait.

...

Within 15 minutes after Han Ting sat down, a man and a woman came in. The woman looked about twenty-seven or eight years old, and she was indeed younger than Han Ting, but her appearance was not as beautiful as Han Ting and she was not as fashionable.

"Ma Jianqiang, sit down. Don't worry, I won't make things difficult for you." Han Ting said with a decent attitude.

Ma Jianqiang sat down with his neck stammering, never daring to look at Han Ting, nor did he take the initiative to talk, but his facial expression was very tough.

Han Ting could only continue to sing a one-man show: "You are friends in times of distress, but in the eyes of outsiders, I have abandoned you, so I have nothing to say.

Today, I am just a reminder to confirm: Xiao He, before you made a mistake, you were not from the capital, nor did you work in the capital? Now that you are back, are you going to separate from your husband, or stay in the capital with him? If you stay in the capital, you will not have a staffing or a job, and you can only rely on Jianqiang's salary to support you..."

"My salary of 100 yuan is enough to support her! Xiao He is not a vain woman!" Ma Jianqiang finally refuted.

This was a bit hurtful, and Han Ting's face suddenly turned pale:

"Then I am the 'vain woman'? Ma Jianqiang, how many times have I submitted to you in the past few years? I stayed in the capital to complain to you when I was accused of divorce. This was agreed upon by both parties, not my own decision. Now you think I am greedy for wealth and glory..."

Ma Jianqiang retorted: "I think you look pretty good and you still have the smell of foreign wine. Is that how you help me? I help me while spending time and drinking."

Han Ting laughed in anger. She didn't want to say more to the man, but in the end she tried to confirm Xiao He's position:

"Xiao He, you are the first marriage. I respect you, and I don't want to break up. I just hope you will consider the difficulties in the future. If you want to go back to the place, I will use my relationship to introduce you to better work, or even help you start a better life.

Of course, if you think your relationship is sacred and you are with someone surnamed Ma not because of "willing to rely on him when you are in the most difficult time" and are willing to continue to live on his salary of more than 100 yuan, then just pretend I didn't say it, I will respect you instead."

Xiao He had never seen the world before, and was suppressed by Han Ting's aura, and didn't know how to speak.

Ma Jianqiang stabbed her last: "Little He is a virgin and followed me. I will take good care of her for the rest of my life! Otherwise, am I still a man?"

Han Ting was stunned: "You said you didn't care?"

Ma Jianqiang felt a little guilty: "I really don't care. What I care about is character! If I have not hurt any virgin in my life, I can live with you. But since Xiao He gave me everything, of course I will be responsible for her due to the two sides!"

Han Ting's face was ashamed and she didn't want to say anything.

"Okay... I am a vain woman. Who told me not to plant trees with you back then? I thought you really wanted to come back and were unwilling to stay in the Northwest for the rest of your life..."

Ma Jianqiang was obviously unwilling to let himself be in a weak aura of "helping women" and retorted toughly: "Don't say it seems to be for my good. What good days have you lived in the past few years? Don't think I don't know, socializing with wine and meat, and I've been dealing with men. I heard from my colleagues that you even hugged a group of young men in the school and had a great time having fun on Christmas Eve dance!"

"You... the surname Ma, I have already let go. What do you mean? You can't want me, but you can't insult me!" Han Ting was so angry that she shook her two bills to pay, and rushed out of the cafe.

...

Gu Ao and Isminaya hurriedly drove up and picked Han Ting up halfway and sent him back to the dormitory.

While in the car, Isminaya also quietly asked Han Ting what the conversation was about - it was not her gossip, but she was afraid that the teacher would not be able to think about it anymore. Only after asking clearly can the right medicine be prescribed.

While driving, Gu Ao also glanced at a few ears and roughly understood.

When he returned to the dormitory, Han Ting cried silently.

Gu Ao patted her on the shoulder: "Teacher Han, don't do this. I know that the person surnamed Ma does not really doubt you, he is just inferior. In psychology, this is called 'suggesting the subconscious as his own destiny'."

"Inferiority?" Han Ting's tears were still gushing out, but she seemed to have found a breakthrough in her heart, which made her feel a little better.

Gu Ao also listened to the psychology class of Peking University Teacher Wu on the "Get" app in his previous life, so he definitely has more theoretical experience in this area than in this era.

He analyzed: "It's very simple - when you were studying, you must have performed better than him, right? When you work, are your position higher than him? You have a higher salary than him?"

"How do you know?" Han Ting was surprised.

"But you didn't dominate for this, but you obeyed him, just because you had been defiled by foreigners before... in your words, so you felt that you owe him?"

"...It's true." Han Ting recalled for a long time, then fell into a depressed state.

Gu Ao slowly analyzed: "There is a famous case in psychology. A person's first love girlfriend is very beautiful, and she has good conditions. She really wants to marry him. But that man just thinks, 'What kind of girl is so good at, what do you think of me? I must be just having fun, and it won't last long if you are not sincere.'

Finally, he found an ugly wife to marry him during a blind date, and then kept his beautiful first love girlfriend in a lover relationship. The psychological counselor asked him, and he only said 'This is fate'."

Speaking of this, Han Ting has been fascinated and forgot her sadness. She humbly asked: "Yes, why are there such a stupid man? That woman is so stupid too."

Gu Ao sneered: "That man is not stupid! The reason why you think it is stupid is based on the prerequisite that 'humans must find better conditions to find marriage partners'.

But in fact, marriages that truly "maximize benefits" cannot last long. I can even predict that if technology is developed in the future and information retrieval capabilities are developed, it can help men and women match their partner who is "the conditions are the most suitable for them". In that way, the final result will be a social nightmare! The divorce rate soars!"

"Why?" Han Ting asked anxiously.

"Because in addition to being a good match, the more important thing about marriage is to be ‘slightly less compatible’. In this way, one party in the marriage will be a little inferior and be grateful to the one with good conditions. Only when the two parties have different personalities will they accommodate and gradually get along.

If the two are perfectly matched, even if they are golden boys and jade girls, they are beautiful, but as long as they are 'no one feels owed to anyone', why should they accommodate each other and change themselves for each other? Then there must be a little disagreement in personality and they will be blown up directly.

In the psychological case I mentioned, the reason why that man wanted to marry an ugly wife and continued to maintain his beautiful first love as a lover is that he wanted to suggest his superiority in the marriage so that he could become the person who was accommodated by the other party. He did not want to be under pressure.

And Ma Jianqiang is obviously the same for you: he was not as good as you back then, and at least he could use "Your character is not good" to imply that he would not be inferior.

If he came back and found that you saved him, and you have been clean for the past four years without any regrets. At the same time, his position has been promoted to another level, how frustrated he is, how cowardly he is, how uneasy he is, how unrestrained he is, how different he is? If he is from the surname He, the situation will be completely different. He does not owe the other party any debts, and even brings her from a small city to the capital to support her...

I dare even say that after Ma Jianqiang's life stabilizes, if you are willing to compromise and be his lover for the rest of your life, he will definitely accept it as his order. And Miss He will also feel that she is a high-spirited person. You have an old friend with him, so you swallow your anger and accept this result."

Han Ting's pupils widened violently: "He thinks beautifully! Since I don't want me anymore, I still expect me not to give up my status? I just... I won't see him again anyway!"

At this moment, Han Ting completely figured it out: although she saved the body named Ma, the two were no longer in the same social class.

Especially men's self-esteem is sometimes very fragile. When they encounter positions, salary, and status, they are far higher than their ex-wife. Of course, they can only imply that they "change their ex-wife" and then completely erase them.

What else can you nostalgic for such a heartless man?

Although this is a bit harmful to feminism, from the perspective of social reality, women are indeed more able to accept husbands or lovers in all aspects than themselves, and then use "conciliation and inferiority" to exchange for the balance here.

Men would rather pay the actual conditions of being honest, such as real money and silver, to buy dignity and make the other party accommodate themselves.

"It's a pity! If Ma Jianqiang really made his own self-esteem, will he slander me in the unit in the future? If he and I were still working in the department, he would only be at the department level..." Han Ting is worthy of being a top student. After being enlightened by Gu Ao's theory, he can quickly learn from one example.

A wise man knows the little thing, and Han Ting can follow the idea to make up for the other party’s mistake of remarriage on her. Maybe she will also arrange for her greedy vanity and socializing in the past four years...

"Xiao Gu, you said, if a person like me really wants to leave the ministry in the future, where can I do things? Where can I do things?" Han Ting completely believed Gu Ao's vision and even consulted such future issues.

"It should... not be so serious, right? Even if there are rumors, it should be a change in career with the surname Ma!" Gu Ao stood up for Han Ting.

"Men are more important to women than women. I don't care about face anymore. I'm not careful about such people. I'm not seeing it. Anyway, I've lived alone in my life and don't want children. Why do I still expect to be promoted? Isn't it good to find a free job and enjoy life?"

"Then...if you... plan to resign from public office or transfer to your post, what time will it be?" Gu Ao was not easy to persuade, so he could only ask accordingly.

"At the latest, let's take your class to graduate. If he forced me to be too anxious, it would be possible to leave early and get promoted early."

Gu Ao secretly kept the time in mind, wondering if he could arrange a way out for Teacher Han.
Chapter completed!